Writing Sex Scenes VS. Romantic Scenes by Stacy Eaton @StacySEaton

stacy_2_pack_2The first book I wrote was My Blood Runs Blue. In that story, one of the main characters relives a memory of a love scene from years past that takes place on the hood of mustang. When I released that, my friends and co-workers went nuts and asked me where I had gotten the idea. I told them it was my own memory and that shut them up.

Here’s a little excerpt of that section:

When our lips met, it was like the galaxy above swallowed us in an explosion of the sun. The moment our lips met, I no longer knew where I stopped and she began. We seemed to have melted together. To have become one in that first kiss.

Her hands came up to my chest and pressed against me, gripping my shirt. As my other arm came around her body, her hands slid over my chest to my back and we pulled each other close. We pulled each other closer then I could have ever thought possible. Our kiss was so deep it was like we could have existed with one heart beating.

I felt her straining hard against me. She could feel my hardness pushing against her lower stomach and she slowly started to move gently against it. I moaned deep in my throat and clung to her harder, pushing myself as hard as I could against her while standing up.” My Blood Runs Blue (Julian’s POV)

second-shield-AmznSince then I have written and published 7 books with an 8th one coming out at the end of the month. Some of them have had some steamy scenes (Second Shield in particular) and some have had love scenes without all the details. I’m far from an erotica author, but I’ve had many people state that I either made them blush or got them hot under the collar.

While I love to read hot steamy novels, there are times I get tired of the hearing how one person got laid after the next. What I ALWAYS enjoy, is the romantic build up that gets you from the initial meeting where the chemistry starts to spark till that moment when they finally lose themselves to the passion. That to me is when it satisfies me the most.

comp7In my two newest books, that is what I have done. Both Distorted Loyalty (released June 13th) and Six Days of Memories (Releasing June 30th) are romantic suspense. The chemistry between the characters builds throughout the stories. My editor comment on Six Days of Memories after she did her first read through saying,

“I could die over their romance. And some of those lines at the end….zingers to the heart! Love, Love, Loved it! Shows how you can do SO much with a lot of heat and tension and romance and it’s far more memorable than just an average old sex scene!”

Personally, I tend to agree. To me sex scenes are just that. You get hot, you get wet, you get it on and then you move on. But passion and romance scenes stay in your mind, they keep you warm when you put the book down and you use your own imagination to complete the scenes. If you use that right, you could be making some good personal memories for both you and your significant other! I know my husband benefits from not only my reading, but my writing too!

Maybe that has something to do with the fact that my mother and aunts read my book and I don’t want them to think I’m as big a pervert as I am, but hey, that’s my story and I’m sticking to it. I know that explicit sex scenes have their place. In fact, I’m working on a new story right now One Every Thirty-Six that will be labeled as being very explicit. I’m going to have to ask my mom to skip that one though, I’m not sure I could face her afterwards!

Thank you so much for allowing me to visit today! I’d love to hear from your readers about their thoughts on this subject!





15 thoughts on “Writing Sex Scenes VS. Romantic Scenes by Stacy Eaton @StacySEaton”

  1. I totally agree with you about the build up of romance and passion. To be honest if there a lot f sexy scenes in a book I will tend to skip some! I know horrors!! But sometimes love behind closed doors after a hot buildup is perfect! Love your books Stacy!

  2. I can relate, love romantic scenes written without the usual words. There is a lot to be said for imagination of where whose hand is and etc 🙂

  3. I agree with so much of what you’re saying here, Stacy. I write ‘sweet’ regencies and let the reader fill in from lots of banter and dialogue. Anne Stenhouse

  4. I’ve grown tired of insert tab A to tab B. Oh and look tab C. I want to read about my h/h falling in love. I want the build up, the tension, the looks, the touches. I don’t need to read sex scene after sex scene. If I want that, I’ll watch porn.


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