Dominance and Submission (D/s) not all fantasy…not all fiction..not scary – Kayla Lords

Hey there! Thanks, Alisa, for having me (rawr!) today.

My name is Kayla Lords, and I’m a sex blogging, erotica writing submissive woman who lives and loves the BDSM lifestyle. So what the hell am I doing here today? Hmmm, good question.

Other than promoting my own writing (duh, right?), I like to take every chance I can to show people that BDSM – specifically Dominance and submission (D/s) – isn’t all fantasy, isn’t all fiction, and isn’t all scary.

I’m a submissive woman and the love of my life (because boyfriend sounds wrong) is a Dominant man. I’m his babygirl, and he’s my Daddy. Ok, ok, I know, some people have an ick factor about that. First of all, I don’t think I’m a little girl, and second of all, he doesn’t want me to be a little girl. No age play for us! Being babygirl means allowing my vulnerable side to show through. I giggle a lot. I allow my silly, goofy side to show. Sometimes I stomp my foot and pout. Being Daddy means that while yes, he’s the Dominant and in charge, he’s more nurturing and less strict.

For those of you imagining that it’s all pink bows, lollipops, and cartoons, think again. I know many people who are into that kind of thing, but I’m not one of them. I’m more of a whips and chains girl, myself. Because on top of being a babygirl, I’m also a masochist (which means I like pain). This works well, because my Daddy is a sadist. Rawr!

A question I get a lot is how I have a D/s relationship with children. A part of me is a little insulted, but a bigger part wants to help people understand. You can have this kind of relationship with children. Just like you wouldn’t have vanilla sex in front of your kids (at least I hope not!), I don’t ask to be spanked in front of my boys. Ew!

What the kids usually see is that I am very respectful and that I take care of my Daddy when he’s with us. (Disclaimer: we’ve been in a long distance relationship since 2013, and as of June 7, we will be moving in together! Can I get a collective /squeee??) He assigns tasks, and I have things I have to do, but they’re mundane things that I just do within my normal day. And any, shall we say, adult tasks are handled behind closed doors.

Ok, because I am a sex blogger and erotica writer, I should give you a little sexy visual, huh? Well, he picks my panties out each day (via text or email), and I take a picture in them everyday and send it to him. No bra, no clothes, just panties. And on the weekend, no panties allowed. There is nothing more sensuous (and slightly naughty) than wearing a sundress in summer knowing there’s nothing between you and a swishing skirt. Mmmmm, heaven!

I write about my D/s life over at my blog plus other sexy things (like Masturbation Monday!). And in my books, I try to depict real people in real D/s relationships. There are no billionaires or red rooms in my stories. I tend more toward the woman who doesn’t know her own value and strength, and men who take what they want but also give so much. So that’s me! I’m glad I could visit Alisa’s blog today!

Kayla Lords Bio

IMG_4585aI discovered my love of writing at age seven and my sexual fantasies by age 13. It took a divorce and re-entry into the dating to world to find my sexual power and voice. I am a sexual submissive in the BDSM lifestyle which is not as extreme and terrifying as it may first appear from the outside looking in.

Now instead of experiencing sexual daydreams, I write them down and publish them for others to enjoy. An avid blogger, tweeter, and talker, I love interacting with my readers.

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Adventures of Sir and Babygirl

Adventures of Sir and Babygirl

Katie, a blogger recovering from a broken heart, has sworn off relationships, even though she misses being the babygirl to a strong Dominant man. Afraid to make another connection, she hides behind her blog.

Johnathan knows he’s no Dominant without a submissive. A few conversations with Katie, and he thinks he may have found the woman he needs and craves.

Will Katie and Johnathan find what they need in each other? Can they become Sir and Babygirl?
Join them as they embark on an adventure of the heart, mind, body, and soul with big doses of kinky, BDSM-filled sexual escapades along the way.

The first in a series, join Katie and Johnathan in the beginning of the relationship!

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